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Convince my wife...

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#1 ·
Hi everyone,

I've just joined the forum, but have been sculking around here for a couple of years, all the while trying to convince my wife my next car will be an e39 m5...

So, heres where you can help me, we've just got rid of her Beetle, and am running one car, and so nows the time for me to start persuading her we need an m5.

Can anyone provide some 'one-liners' that would convince someone who is not interested in cars that they need a fuel / insurance / tax / servicing hungry beast on the drive? The best I can usually manage is along the lines of "it'll be so comfy, with heated leather, and will have a tv so you can watch Hollyoaks / Beastenders in it"!!

All responses welcome, from the serious, to the hilarious!

Im all ears!

Thanks

Steve
 
#7 ·
Sold a VW Passat and bought the M5 for more room in the rear for a baby seat. The first car I remember my parents having as a kid was a VW Beetle. My sister and I just hopped in the back and off we went. In the US so many parents think as soon as they have kids they need to get some huge SUV. Thing is kids are small. At least for the first 8-10 years. They don't need a couch and 50inch flat screen tv in the back of the car. I bought mine with the idea that when my kids look back on their childhood they will say the old man has a sweet car when they were young and will be fighting for the keys when they turn 16.
 
#9 · (Edited)
The first thing that comes to mind is "Let her drive it" to which my wife fully agrees, she loves to drive the ///M, just teach her to respect not only it, but the clutch and the ///M's power.

If that's not so much an option, try these, and thank my wife if they work:
1. The heaven seats are HEAVEN! I love having my bottom all toasty in the morning!
2. You always know your man is gawking at another car and not another woman.
3. The ride is so smooth, you'll never want another vehicle.
4. The sound it makes is incredibly sexy.
5. Honey, it's all *real* leather. Just like your purse.

There you go. If any of those actually work, let us know.
 
#24 ·
Hahaha I'm gonna use this when I'm married and lusting after the new M5
 
#11 ·
"By the time we sell it, it won't have lost any value at all"

(well almost ;))
 
#12 · (Edited)
1. First tell her you want something outrageous... like a 4-door Maserati or Porsche 911 Turbo because this is the last chance for you to own because of future of costly gasoline and YOU MUST BY ONE. Be sincere and believable. This will make your choice of E39 M5 look like the most logical choice...everything is relative. Look at the cars online and ask her what color the Porsche should be. Say you gonna go look at the dealer at Porsches since the dealer said: "We have a deal that you can not refuse". At this point she'll be begging you to get an E39 M5.

2. Say it safe car, and you value family safety and especially since you can not afford to be disabled because of an accident because you must support the family and that 90% of accidents happen because you can't get out of the way fast enough because you lack horsepower.

3. Say it gets 23 mpg on highway no problem.

4. Say it is better than a motorcycle, because it protects you while giving you some horsepower.

5. Say it has a large trunk for those airport trips and hauling stuff around. Especially if you get fold-down seats.

6. It has 8 air bags and even curtain air bags to protect you from very dangerous side impacts.

7. Any new Honda Accord will cost you more than an M5 with none of the joy.

8. Tell her that you are a determined man, and if you can't get what exactly what you want.. you'll still make sure to get it.

9. Ask her to see her shoe/purse collection and say you want to cross reference the prices online. Suddenly she'll be dragging you to buy the M5.

10. Just go buy one, deal w/ her later. If she really loves you she won't divorce you over an M5. And if she does then **** it. You got an M5 out of the deal and the M5 will never divorce or nag about another car in the driveway. M5 is like a dog, you can beat it and it still stays loyal.

IF women decided everything what men ought to do, we all be living in stone-age washing dishes in a cave. Most women are like dogs, they enjoy when men take charge.
 
#13 ·
Tell her, "Honey you deserve to be driven around in an M5."

"Porsches are too flashy, Mercs too pompous. An M5 says you're above competing with the neighbors... because you've already won."

Ask her, "Do you think your husband deserves to have a nice car? Of course I'm talking a family sedan, but still a nice car in which to show you off."

"I no longer want one of those little screaming cars you're always rolling your eyes at. I want a nice family car that shows how special you are to me."


Oh, and if you let her drive it, be prepared to get another. Cindy stopped wanting a new Camaro after driving the M5. She realized she could have a much better, more comfortable car for a third of the cost.

Good Luck,

dj
 
#16 ·
I showed my wife a 4-year old STi complete with huge wing and fat pipe for $27k, then showed her the M5 for $5k less. When we went to check out the M5, the sound of the Magnaflows was nearly a deal-breaker but the black leather/aluminum trim was a big hit. So I would recommend bringing her on a test drive with stock exhaust if she is sensitive to noise. +1 on the second bank account though. You will end up buying parts just to treat the car
 
#17 ·
Whoever said it's all about perspective is right on the money.

Really get hot and heavy serious about a car that costs 10k more and is WAY less practical.

Just be sure to know which year and the kind of mileage you want on the M5 so you can choose your "dummy car" accordingly for pricing reasons.

I had an e36 M3 sedan (no fold down seats) and a Chevy Tahoe (2Dr 4x4) when I got my M5; therefore, it really was more practical than both for kid seats, etc...huge trunk....can bolt on a bike rack (which I have)....the M5 can be pretty utilitarian if you want it to be.

Good luck!cherrsagai
 
#18 ·
My line was...'Look what I bought'

It took her 2 years to not hate the car. thats about as good as I got.

After I got it, I tried to convince her it was a family car. The 6 speed and red interior didn't help that.

Now she accepts it as my toy and tolerates it. Although she does like going out in it.....hmm, maybe she secretly likes it.
 
#20 · (Edited)
cheers guys

thanks everyone so far!

Some very funny responses in there such as

"just buy one, and deal with her later..." You don't sound like a married man?! hiha

Well the New Beetle was her dream car, and we paid ÂŁ9k for it 3 years ago, so I figure, I'm allowed at least ÂŁ9k for my next car. I think i'll head down the "ok, we'll compromise, I'll get a family car for us."

Keep the replies coming, they crack me up!!

Cheers

PS - JustinM5, thanks for the PM - as im a new member I can't reply at the moment though. But suffice to say, at this stage, im not in the position to buy just yet.
 
#21 ·
thanks everyone so far!

Some very funny responses in there such as

"just buy one, and deal with her later..." You don't sound like a married man?! hiha
Sounds like you haven't been married long enough. :D Always better to seek forgiveness then to ask for permission. ;) "Honey, you knew I was looking for a new car. :wroom: Isn't she a beaut?"

Also, if the cost of ownership becomes an issue, be sure to have one of your friends (or even better, one of her friends) mention to your wife that the cost of maintaining an M is a lot less then the cost of maintaining a mistress.

Good luck!
 
#23 ·
I focused on the longevity of the M5 and also used the "relatively practical" method. Before I bought the M5, I was buying a new car on a fairly regular 30 month schedule. Ever car was an "upgrade" over the previous car and necessary because it was "better" than the previous car. My wife was getting sick of it. I started out pushing hard for an E46 M3 and was starting to wear down her resistance. The M3 was a tough sell with 3 young kids still on booster seats, but my constant harrasment was working. Once I introduced the idea of an M5 (with 4 doors and three shoulder belts in the rear), and explained how it is the best sports sedan ever produced and therefore would break the vicious cycle of "upgrades," she was happy to sign on. Relieved and excited, in fact. My wife now loves the M5. It is the "date night" car and is always clean (in stark contrast to her disaster of a Volvo XC90). The leather dash, soft red glow of the ambient lighting and the comfortable interior really makes the car into a luxury sedan, which she appreciates.
 
#26 ·
a little innocent manipulation never hurt anyone

I second the aforementioned idea of "being interested" in an outrageous car but you have to make it look legit. Show her postings, ask her opinion, get her involved, make her disgusted then "stumble upon" a great deal on a beautiful family sedan. Go ahead and purchase your M5 then send her flowers at work thanking her for being such a great help throughout your search for the perfect car in which to create lasting family memories. Then you buy her something really nice, a new purse, shoes, jewelry to wear that night on your date. Take her to a nice restaurant, remind her how much you love her, compliment how she looks. She'll be so enthralled she won't even notice the imminent shift in attention from her to your new beast. win-win.
 
#32 ·
So I asked MY wife what you should say, as she really loves the beast. She came back at me with many questions:

What are you driving right now and why did you get rid of her Beetle? Did I understand this right? You got rid of her dream car and you get the replacement?

Are you financially sound? Could you afford a two thousand pound repair? Are you mechanically inclined?

Any accidents/speeding tickets? Does your driving normally scare her or is she comfortable with a bit of speed? Do you two argue about driving habits?

Is it understood that YOU need a car or is it that the family needs another car? Big difference.

Cindy is of the opinion, in general, that if you are seeing to your responsibilities, and you are the one needing a car, your wife should have little to say about your choice. Granted I have an exceptional wife, but that is also a loaded gun if you're not taking care of things.

Hopes this helps with the female perspective,

dj
 
#40 ·
OK, good questions, and here are the answers...

We're now sharing a VW Golf mk4 - sold the beetle as it was worth more than the golf, and we needed the cash really.

Financially sound - 50/50, we are getting out of some debt, but both on a good wage, so yeah, I think so, or at least will be in 6 months when some debts are paid off eg credit cards etc.

I couldnt afford a ÂŁ2k repair, but theres not much between me and my mates that we can't fix mechanically.

The speeding tickets question...yawnnnn just got 3 points for speeding, and she wasn't a huge fan of my driving style, but she is very timid behind the wheel, whereas I am more confident.

And we will need a family car, but my plan is to get something like a Honda CRV as our day to day car, then the m5 for me at weekends, and i'll cycle to work during the week.

The issue is I dont NEED the car, or any car for that matter, especially not an expensive to run one. At the moment my golf is cheap to run, and returns 70mpg on motorway etc, so its going to be a big culture shock when / if I do make the jump to an m5.

I hope that explains the situation. One day.......
 
#36 ·
^^^ hahaha! That's awesome.

I'm a female, so my comment a few posts up is a female perspective

:biggrin: I thought your perspective was quite reasonable. The whole win-win thing should have been a give-away. jk. Seriously though, my whole thought process was what does his wife get out of it? How will his wife benefit from him driving an M5?

My wife actually sent me shopping for an M5 when an F150 took out my last E28. Sure it was a thank you because we had been going through a lot with her finishing her BS in Nursing, but Cindy got her husband into a car that wasn't twenty-five years old.

Win-win.

dj