It is your money you can spend it as you want. What exactly is in your 6 piece front end kit, what is the price difference between 6 and 10 piece? When you have loose parts that bang each time they move they do damage or stress the other parts in the system.Think I’m just going to go with
BC BR coil over Kit
6 piece front control arm kit
And 6 piece rear
Yes the way they explained it was that everything is obviously shot. I have 230k miles I’ve been refreshing the car little by little. I do what I can when I can. (Although it seems to never end) that’s why I put budgets up doesn’t mean it’s not flexible, it’s just a timing matter. I’m into the car more in repairs than what I paid for it. Almost feels like the point of no return I put so much money into it there’s no point in selling it might as well just keep it. I enjoy driving it. I think I’ll take your advice and worry about the front and rear end And do the shocks later. Most likely a 20 piece kit Front and back.You were driving the car, so you know best. You have the 3 correct items chosen front end, back end and suspension. Address what is worst first. Address what is second worst second. Depends on miles, depends on use but none of those 3 items last forever so no matter what you are not wasting money. You have to replace them all at some point. Maybe 3 times for the front end.
Not sure your shop is giving you sound advice but I am not sure they are not. I would have had more confidence if they had measured things but maybe it is so bad it is obvious and measuring things costs money.
The same is likely true for the rear if it is all original it all needs to be replaced unless you measure otherwise. If you can't measure it then just replace it. The rubber alone is 20 years old. These things at this age are money pits, the only way they are not is if you have had it for a long time and have been bleeding money the whole time. The original cost of mine is peanuts compared to the cost of ownership. Worth it, but still expensive. I giggle a little when you said $3000 budget, I dropped double that into parts the first year I bought mine. Some was repairing things I knew were broken but the majority was maintenance.