and, as Greg says, every car is different.
I can't stand non-sport mode (feels like I'm driving a truck) so I've been working on smooth upshifts and (especially 3-2) downshifts in Sport mode.
One thing I've found, at least on the upshifts, is the speed with which you shift: faster means smoother (I guess less time for the engine speed to drop, especially when the air is on). It also helps to feel the shift lever dropping into the next gear.
But downshifts? Forget it.
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