Thanks for the clarification--! I guess I AM one of those people who use the two terms interchangeably (and it seems incorrectly; see below). I may not have clarified well enough as I wrote the other posts quickly, but I did inquire further as the bent portion was pointed out to me in purchase inspection.
It is actually the sub-frame--not the cross member. And based on records, futher convo with previous owner, inspecting mechanic, even tire wear, and my personal test drives, I had no reservations--and still don't--in buying car. The current alignment shop said that the right front wheel (side where repair weld was done on subframe) was actually a few millimeters towards back off spec. It could be that someone covered up an accident but body lines are perfect and no one has caught one misplaced piece or factory sticker. I do have a carfax gaurantee but don't know if those really work or if I'll even need it. No noises, no pulling or vibration and a very experienced BMW mechanic who supervised the replacement. I guess we'll see...
Any further thoughts are welcome...