Brett, some dealers understand that there aren't enough car coming to the Bay Area, and sometime we have to go out of state to do it. I am sure that if you find a local dealer to do the delivery, the NY dealer will be happy to comply. BMW did not do away with the program, it is a hasstle for the NY dealer to find a dealer in the bay area, and he'd rather you pick up the car in NY..
Tell your sales guy, "if you arrange for me a curtecy delivery, I'll give you an "excelent" in the after-delivery survey...
This seems to motivate them...